You consider yourself a first-rate conversationalist. You can finish sentences and pinpoint thoughts like nobody’s business. (You’re likeQueer Eye’s unlicensed therapist, Karamo, but IRL.) Hate to break it to you, but your enthusiastic interjecting is actually getting in the way of the most important conversation skill of all: thoughtful listening.
Luckily, there’s a trick for how to be a better listener (or at least seem like one), and it’s surprisingly simple.
你给一个响应之前,暂停。就是这样。真正的ly.
According to the late psychologist (and author ofDon’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and It’s All Small Stuff) Richard Carlson, it’s called “breathe before you speak.”