Pre-COVID, I was obsessed with “date night.” I thought that, in order for my husband and me to truly connect, we needed a waiter, candlelight and an unspoken agreement toput your phone away or else.
The good news is that we had date night regularly. (Shout out to our wonderful babysitter, Franny.) The bad news: Most of our time at home was devoted to logistics and work (for our jobs, for our home, for our toddler) rather than enjoying each other.
Cue the pandemic, and the inability to well, go anywhere. That sounds bad for relationships right? Not necessarily says couples therapist Zach Brittle via theGottman Institute. Really, it’s just a chance to bolster yourrelationship rituals.
What’s a relationship ritual?According to Brittle, a relationship ritual is something that happens on a recurring basis, but is centered on creating time that’s “just us.” It might be doing the Sunday crossword puzzle together. It might be watching half an hour ofThe Officecurled up on the couch each night. It might be cleaning the kitchen together after the kids go to bed, blasting NPR.