It’s 2023 and We All Know What Consent Is, So Why Are You Still Trying to Touch My Pregnant Belly?

Pregnancy is a “magical time,” they say. I suppose…if by magical you mean itmagicallybeckons a tidal wave of weird behavior from strangers and acquaintances alike. “Were youtryyying?” and “You look like you’re about to POP!” and “It’s definitely a boy, since you’re carryingblah blah blah.”

Pregnancy is exciting! I get it! Theunsolicited questions and commentsare one thing; the hand I see zooming out from my peripheral vision to rub, pat or pinch my midsection is something entirely more aggravating.

Many people will argue that this is an instinctual behavior, to reach out and touch a pregnant belly—rooted in the innate human desire for social interaction and need for community.Psychologists notethat touch is a form of unspoken communication. Touching a pregnant person’s stomachcouldbe seen as a way to communicate the excitement and hope that comes with a child.

Even when well-meaning, this argument is spoiled by the implication that there’s an attitude of entitlement toward other people’s bodies that we can’t seem to shake. From celebrity “bump” announcements (‘Lindsay Lohan Is Pregnant! Check Out Her BUMP!!!’) to speculation about the size and shape of myown突出的腹肌,我们对待怀孕as a free-for-all opinion dump has been a constant reminder that I live in a society that doesn’t view my body as my own and doesn’t care about my privacy either. Why does having another body growing inside of me reduce my ownbodily autonomyto nothing? In apost-Roe era, this is both frightening and sadly unsurprising.

But for me, that’s not even the biggest issue. I’m most bothered how, more and more, it really seems like a big fatliethat someone is touching my belly because they think “children are a blessing.”

If you cared about my kid, you would care that the United States doesn’t guarantee paid family leave to workers, but depending on where you live, it may guarantee that you can’t get access toproper reproductive healthcare.

You would care that in this country,the maternal death rate has risen sharply each year since 2018, currently at its highest among Black women, with 69.9 deaths per 100,000 live births.