波莱特:婚姻是一种具有法律约束力的契约,是一种商业安排。作为年轻女孩,我们幻想着婚纱、蛋糕、戒指、婚礼、蜜月、被抬过门槛,以及整个灰姑娘情结。但是当然,当你走上红毯的时候,真正应该发生的是,应该有一个牧师或牧师或拉比或任何人,和一个律师。有人会说,‘正如你所知,这是一项具有法律约束力的商业安排,你所做和拥有的一切都是混合的。如果这不起作用,那将是一个创伤,而且代价高昂。”Not to say that things can’t be mediated—I have many, many cases where that happens, but it takes both parties to cooperate. Divorce is a process, and it is so utterly overwhelming, confusing, expensive and very, very procedural. Once you’ve made the decision, you've really got to get organized, gather your evidence, have a budget and understand lawyer-speak. You have to choose your advocates. You have to document everything. You can’t be blasé. You’ve got to learn to manage your stress, how to communicate with your friends and family. You have to be very knowledgeable about the law and the mental health, financial, real estate aspect of it. But also, there’s the child centered aspect: you’ve got custody, co-parenting, alimony, child support, division of marital assets. Just understanding who is in charge of medical, extracurricular, religion and education is a big-ass deal. And what about the physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, mental aspect of it? It’s a lot and sometimes you’ll take two steps forward, and one step back. I've also seen clients take a step forward and two steps back. It isn’t just,上车,装上离婚的GPS,准备,出发事情没那么简单。杰西卡可以详细解释,因为她现在就生活在其中!
洁西卡:不,事情没那么简单。有一天,我和我的律师坐了三个小时,把我所有的审讯和回答都看了一遍,因为有太多的文件,是的,文件,文件,文件!我怎么强调都不为过。值得庆幸的是,无论是在个人生活中还是在工作中记录开支,我都很自然地做到了这一点。所以,对我来说,记录这些东西非常简单。但是说真的——记录下每件事。